Have i lost myself in the CLOAK of a WIFE?
Was i built for this unfair journey?
These are yet few major questions many wives have asked.
Remember Sarah, how selfish she became in her own gains to please her own husband at the price of another woman’s happiness?
In the cloak of a wife, Sarah did lose herself for a moment to please her husband.
Sometimes as wives we become lost in self that we fail to even recognize when we are evicting others of their own happiness. We fail to see the pain of others as we try to quench the pain of our own regrets. As wives we become entrenched in unfair games and nothing or anyone will ever win that game with us as main players.
Have you pushed your husband to the naughty game of infidelity?
Sarah knew what she was doing. She knew her goal and that was to please Abraham with a child. But Sarah failed to evaluate the other end of the game before starting the game. She said, ‘The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her.” Genesis 16:2
Focus on the doubts, the leadership, the confusion, the insecurities, the wickedness, the selfishness, the fierceness in her tone and her words, ‘PERHAPS I can BUILD a FAMILY through HER.’ She said I and not we.
As a woman our mouths sometimes reverse or delay our blessings. In most cases we speak through emotions. It may even breathe our down falls and our misery. If only we act less emotional and more with wisdom then perhaps our homes, our men would be men of valour, You think?
Are you a Sarah who forgot your worth in Christ?
Are you an Hagar who forgot your worth in Christ?
Picture your marriage and picture your posture as a wife. Have you found an equilibrium?
After you have tried and done it all, everything that the Lord have asked you to do. All that you can do now, is to let go and let God. Let vengeance be for God.
If you are the wrong doer in your marriage then ask yourself this question, ‘What does it profit you to lose your soul and gain the whole world?’
The Lord wants you to honour God with your marriage. He wants you to be committed even when things have not changed. He wants you to be unmoveable and steadfast in righteousness. He wants you to supplicate and surrender to his instructions even when it seems to hurt, even when it seems like the hardest to do.
So if you are about to sign that divorce paper or about to separate from your union, just one question.
Have you fully seeked God on the matter? Have you patiently waited for his answers?
Did you know God’s timing is very crucial that we follow? If God says now then it is now. If God says wait, then we must wait and we must be diligent in waiting.
Lord Jesus help me to always see my wrongs help me to not be judgemental of my spouse, help me to love my spouse despite his flaws, despite the lies, despite the deception, despite the hurts and despite all the discomforts. Help me Lord to honour you with my posture as a wife. Strengthen me to persevere. Help me to do more than just endure but help me to conquer and be victorious in all this pursuit of your Glory. In Jesus’ name Amen.