The 3 RINGS in marriage

Proverbs 31:11-12

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

From the planning, to the attendance, to the vows, to the honey moon and to the life long expectations, other than the 14karat White Gold genuine diamond RING now you are at the place of the first compaRING.

So you have now started enjoying your lives together but then there is a shift in the atmosphere, vales fell in drastic accordance, then you start to see yourself better at this or better at that so you start compaRING. Who does the best Christmas Turkey, Who cooks without making an entire mess of the Kitchen, who mostly cleans the house, wash the clothes, take care of the children, who spends more time massaging the other and who loves more.

Is it worth it to wear the compaRING more so than how you wear the 14karat?

Philippians 2:3 states, ‘Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.’

What have you gained by weaRING that compaRING?

When we start to esteem our spouses more than ourselves or when we start to humble ourselves before God and evaluate our own selves then and only then we stop weaRING the compaRING.

Secondly, why do we enjoy discoveRING?

The deceits that are stored up, the skeletons in the closets, the filtered brains and the tarnished organs that have poisoned the growths and prosperity of your marriage have led you to discoveRING. Yes i can imagine how hard it is to discover your spouses’s sexuality confusion. I can imagine how hard it is to come to terms with your spouse’s new love for your best friend or that Church sister you hold dear to you. I can imagine the fights you have to put up with mentally as your spouse denies time with you and grants friends the time and affection you are obliged to.

But might i say this? Know your worth, know your value, the only way to know who you are, is to be in Christ. The moment you start seeing yourself as chosen, as royal and as priesthood, that is the moment you will realize that the fights and how you are fighting are futile. Do you have that space in your home, in your heart or in your mind? Create a WAR ROOM, start fighting the right way, start discoveRING the right way. Stop going out of your way to discover information on your spouse.

Why are you searching your spouse’s phone and emails?

Why are you sneaky, why are you spying, why are you losing your self worth to discover?

Why are you insecure?

Yes the problems exist, allow God to reveal it however he wants to reveal it to you.

Be thankful for the piercing battles because those battles are to take you on a different plain that God wants you.

What have you learnt? What is God saying to you in this time?

Do you need to repent? How have you been raking up revelations? Have you been redesigning God’s way of revelation?

Thirdly, all spouses must wear the enduRING. We all have a burning concern, we all have that piercing issue and we all have been at our breaking point. That moment when we have decided, enough is enough! This is it! I am finished! I have no strength left to fight! I hate you! I have fallen out of love for you! I am tired! I detest marriage! God I want out!

Well relax, many have been there, including myself. Not just marriage either but in all things, life greets us sometimes with unexpected twist and turns that cause us to lose our stands sometimes. I encourage you, wear the enduRING. It is written in Luke 21:36, ‘Watch therefore, and pray always that you may be counted worthy to escape all these things that will come to pass, and to stand before the Son of Man.’

Pray for wisdom that in all things you seek God for direction that he may lead you and prepare your way of escape be it his will.

What are you fearful of?

What have you been crying out to God for?

What are you expecting from God?

Have you even cried out to God or have you just given up on even revering God as God?

I beseech you release your burdens before God he said he will make your burdens light. He will grant you peace, a peace that your oppositions may not understand, a peace that your neighbours will not understand. God have been waiting on you. Cry out to him for he is still God!


Father in the name of Jesus i place every spouse before you, Lord touch them from the crown of theiŕ heads to the sole of their feet cause them Lord to seek you in all their ways and to lean only on your understanding. We bind every spirit that carries the purpose of destroying everything that you have entrusted to your people to carry. Restore their sanity and their hearts. Grant them a fresh mind and a fresh love that cast out all fear. In Jesus name Amen.

Author: Peta-Gaye Forbes-Robinson

Peta-Gaye Robinson otherwise known publicly as Phoebe is known for her love for writing but not just any type of writing. She is currently writing her first book which holds some of her life’s stories that may seem daunting. She is mostly known for inspirational writings and domestic violence and child abuse articles that edifies and change lives of victims and perpetrators. She is also a Radio Broadcaster for a local re-known radio program. She is a Domestic Violence and Child Abuse Activist and is currently in the process of establishing a program geared towards assisting youths with creative remedies to overcome the negative effects of abuse and to soar higher than their expectations. Phoebe Robin has been married for over seven years and has a bouncing baby boy. She currently holds a degree in Business Administration and is presently studying Media & Communication at a local university with hopes of establishing her very own T.V. Show. Her life’s prescription that cures from the root any known or unknown illnesses is, ‘The Grave is a dark and secluded place for a reason, we all need a silent period in our lives to get quiet with God, to allow God to think through us and to be silent in allowing God to answer our questions so that every daunting issues that tried to bury us in a Grave will be faced with God’s resurrection power to breathe life and purpose in us, that Grace may grant us courage to walk out of the Grave.’

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